Stephanie Essenfeld has been dedicated to the study and practice of family psychology and therapy for the past eight years. She loves working in collaboration with her clients and helps them take advantage of their strengths to solve their problems. She focuses in effective communication, empathy, rebuilding self-esteem, boundaries, decision making, overcoming traumas, and mindfulness, in order to be able to form and maintain healthy relationships with others and most importantly, with themselves. She uses her instagram account @therapyuntangled to offer tools for personal growth, facilitate psychoeducation, and encourage self-reflection in those who do not have access to therapy or who want to use her content as a supplement to their own therapy.

In this episode we discuss:

  • Radical acceptance – Accepting that pain is part of life and rejecting pain can hurt you the same as genuine suffering. Reject the idea that if we’re feeling pain then we can not be OK at the same time, or that we’re not supposed to be sad or angry when things don’t go well. Accepting pain of any kind, big or small, with all your being , is the key to moving forward. You can still be happy with pain in your life. 
  • Open yourself up to rejection because it has nothing to do with your worth as a person. Treat it as feedback that tells you what you can do differently to succeed in the future.
  • To move forward we have to accept the events of our past , the events of our present, that everything has a cause, and also that we have limitations in the future. Life can be worth living even with painful events in it. 
  • To stop self sabotage ask “What’s the best that can happen?” not “What’s the worst that can happen.” Also, recognize the self fulfilling traits of labels others have placed on you. Understand that these labels come with a certain set of characteristics that don’t have to define you if you don’t let them. 
  • Interpersonal effectiveness skills – There are 4 types of communication: Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive, and Assertive which is the most effective.

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Episode 106-min
Categories: BOLU Podcast


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